I spent the last 1/2 hour or so talking on the phone to a friend of mine, who also has a blog as well, and we talked about life, health, girl stuff, and so on. During the course of the conversation, and as the conversation settled into more meaningful, deeper topics... we both came to the realization that scrutiny is good, and ASSumption is bad. Okay. Sounds silly when you put it like that, but why confuse the issue with pretty words?
Somewhere between acquiring information and implementing reason something can go very, very awry, and the consequences aren't anything to write home about. So why do people fall prey to the rather weak lure of assumption when the truth is often, though not always, fairly interesting? G and I concluded that we definitely are in the middle of a dung-pile of thrill-seekers who can't handle being removed from the most caustic drama available. And when it's not available... they set about constructing the facade that will most assist them in their endeavor to be shocked, appalled, thrilled, and mortified. How crazy is that? Well, maybe it's not crazy at all.
Humans thrive on drama. Whether you have drama in your life or not, and it doesn't matter who's fault the drama is, people just can't seem to help themselves when said drama isn't up to par for their taste. It takes talent, G and I agree on this, and we believe that in all seriousness people hone and perfect this skill that is not at all unlike mental heroin. Once people try it.. they can't do without it, and when their 'stash' of drama runs low, or it's just not doing it anymore for them, they have to enhance it somehow.
Right before G and I hung up so we could, you know, blog about it (grin)... we both thought there was, in so many ways, a certain kind of power with being honest with blogging AND life. When you realize your advantage, when it finally hits you that you're actually in a position power... the anger against having ASSumption being projected on you... that's the moment you win.
The most powerful thing to be, hands-down, is
underestimated.
Now, this isn't anything new. I've known this, as most do, my whole life. Or at least fairly early on at some point... usually in childhood. Even if we don't recognize it right off deep in our gut
we know. The first time someone doesn't believe us when we're telling the truth--realization sets in. And either then, or later on in life, at some point in time... you understand fully that the moment people don't give you credit for having intelligence is the moment they relinquish their own power.. to you.
People who don't respect you try, even subconsciously, to discredit you. This is a very strong form of underestimation of you as a person. This means they underestimate you, therefore, can't predict what you will say, do, or think at any moment in any situation. The mistrust they infuse doesn't move beyond themselves and, therefore... they weaken their own ability to 'keep up.' My question in all of this is.. "Why on earth would they deliberately assume the position of weakness?" Well, that's something only those people can answer.
I can be amused by all of this easily. However, as G and I agreed, there's a certain element of pity that comes into play when you realize that when people choose to inject ASSumption into truth that their lives must become terribly distorted as a result. How can anyone find anything good if the distortion becomes a barrier to actual communication?
At this moment I can visualize G blogging away frantically---excited to know she's not as powerless as she once thought. It was a good conversation.
Off to re-post on my other blogs, then to read G's blog...
What a weird freaking day.
